1. Don’t say things like “It was God’s plan”. Even though the individual may believe in God, tragedy is hard to put into perspective so soon. So it’s best to say something like “I’m praying for you and your family”.
2. If you know people are waiting to hear from loved ones don’t keep asking over and over “Have you heard anything yet”? Sometimes the constant questioning can become unnerving.
3. Just be sincere in offering your sympathy. “Yes, this is such a terrible thing that has happened, my heart goes out to everyone there”.
4. Don’t talk over and over about how much money you’ve donated. And keep your fundraising and donation directing in moderation. People donate based on cause and relationship so let them decide which organization they want to give to.
5. This NOT the time to talk politics about what the U.S. and our President should or should not be doing. Rather focus your attention on the human lives and rescue attempts.
6. Avoid giving updates on the death toll instead share information of hope such as rescue and relief efforts.
7. If folks are gathering at one person’s house waiting on reports, It’s okay to stop by and offer your support. It can come in the various forms:
Offer to watch or tend to small children.
Taking older children out for a short while to give the family a break
Tidy up their house (ask first people can be territorial).
Run simple errands
Bring supplies such as food, beverages and paper products such as paper towels and toilet paper (some of the first items to go when you have a lot of people in the house).
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