Who does that?!!!!
The NEW BRIDE then has to explain to you (again) that it was a PRIVATE wedding. And only family and her very close friends (in her age group) were invited.
Okay "Elite" one. Where is the "congratulations on your marriage" or "Best Wishes" or "I'm happy for you". UGH!!
Folks if you are not invited to a (PRIVATE) wedding. Get over it!! Be kind, use good manners, and say something nice. Hey here's a great idea! You can just say nothing at all! How about that? Oh, and stop thinking so highly of yourself. It is so not about you, it's about the Bride and Groom starting off a new life together.