Almost Christmas: Are you Ready to Deal with your Family?

Since it's almost Christmas we should really begin to think about how we are going to deal with the crazy that comes with our family. No matter how dignified you are we all have at least ONE relative who can get a little out of hand.  I recently stopped by CW6 in San Diego to promote the new film Almost Christmas. It's in theaters tomorrow  starring Danny Glover, Gabrielle Union, Monique and many more. This movie has got the total combination of family, fun and lot of crazy. I also shared my tips on how to deal with the crazy with a bit of grace and style. Many of the tips came straight from my book Let Crazy Be Crazy. Take a look at the clip from my interview below and then go see the hilarious movie Almost Christmas with your family. 

Cost Effective Gifts for Father’s Day

Father’s Day is no fun when you can’t find a gift that fits your budget. It’s not like you don’t love your dad. It’s just that your debt-to-income ratio is so high that an extravagant gift would push the budget over the edge. Not to worry! Here are a few cost-effective ideas for Father’s Day that will let dad know that you love him without breaking the bank.

 

A Shirt Design ($2-$15)

Purchase a plain white or colored shirt, add a bit of tube/writable fabric paint with writing that expresses how much you appreciate him, and give the creation to dad. He will be grateful for the time and effort put into the gift, and you will save at least $10.00.

 

Baking Cookies ($10-$20)

Food is always in order on Father’s Day. Instead of taking dad out, consider baking him a dozen of cookies and placing them in a tin can designed especially for the holiday. Cookie dough can cost as little as $2.00 per dozen and a tin can may be as cheap as $10.00.

 

The Duct Tape Wallet ($10-$20)

So you can’t afford to buy dad a state-of-the-art wallet, huh? Create a money holder with duct tape! Choose one or several colors of tape and wrap it around cardboard for a wallet that is innovative in all forms. It is probably a good idea to shape the cardboard like a wallet before applying adhesive so that the duct tape serves as more of decoration.

Simple Rules That Can Lead to A Lifetime of Success

Rules are for more than simply keeping kids in check. While it is true that you don’t want your sweethearts embarrassing you in a public setting, your decision to set the standard for what is acceptable behavior helps children find their place in society. Here are three things that kids learn as a result of being taught the basic art of mannerism.

 

Dinner Etiquette

Telling your little one to refrain from talking while chewing sends the immediate message that it is not okay to talk with a mouth full of food. The admonishment also indirectly tells him that conversing with another person requires undivided attention. He cannot be so focused on another task that he forgets to engage with the person in front of him during dinner.

 

Social Skills

Your primary rule of making eye contact is about more than showing family members respect. Kids learn the qualities needed to be successful on job interviews when they get the rundown on how to conduct themselves during family gatherings.

 

Consideration

Respect, honesty, and consideration are core values of etiquette that help kids make positive contributions to society. You can count on your child saying, “excuse me” before stepping over another person’s feet because of the principle of consideration that you have instilled in them. Such concept will be the driving force in the future that compels them to wait until their business partner has finished his/her thought before sharing their opinions during a conference meeting.

 

 

When the Kids Are Sick: How To Refuse a Playdate Without Being Rude

Sniffing, coughing, and runny noses are all signs of something worse to come. You try to shield your child from viruses but now his best friend, who appears to be sick, has requested a playdate. How do you respectfully decline?

 

Thank the parents

It is always nice for a friend to consider your child as a friend who is welcome in their home. Thanking the parents is a great way of expressing gratitude for such trust.

 

Politely decline

Don’t go into the fact that you believe their child to be sick and, therefore, would prefer your little one not have extended contact with them. The idea is not to insult the requester or even explain your reasoning for declining the playdate. Simply say, “Thank you for inviting us” and, “Perhaps we can schedule for another time.”  Agreeing to postpone the playdate indicates that you want your child and his friend to spend time together; just not right now.

Parents Lip-locking With Kids? How Much Public Affection is Too Much?

One thing that parents want kids to take away from their relationship is love. No matter how old the children get, mom and dad want them to know how much passion they have for them. Such is the reason why moms work long hours to give their kids great birthday parties, and why toddlers can get that extra piece of cake from dad. Love is the driving force behind all of these parental efforts. So is love also the driving force behind parents showing very public displays of affection that include kissing adult children on the lips? Well, yes.

 

In certain cultures…

Parents are very hands-on. Kissing is a part of everyday life, and a father who lip-locks with his daughter that is 30-years-old is not taboo. Although the United States is considered a melting pot of cultures, we haven’t quite reached that point where a father kissing his adult daughter on the lips is looked at as “normal.”

 

What are the rules?

Kissing kids on the lips in public should begin to dwindle during the early stages of childhood. While it is cute to see parents showing such affection during the first five years, kissing teenagers and adult children on the lips – in public - is an uncomfortable sight for many regardless of your at-home normalcy and family dynamic.

 

We must remember that we are judged by the way we behave. It is, therefore, important to be mindful of how we may be perceived as a result of our actions.

The Baby Registry Rules: Tips When Having a Shower and Asking for Gifts

You’re expecting a child and want to share the pregnancy experience with loved ones. Although they may not be able to accompany you to the delivery room, family members and friends can celebrate the impending birth of your little one with a baby shower and gifts. Here are three tips to consider when preparing for the party and registry.

Tip #1: Go for what is economical

The idea of a registry is to give friends the opportunity to participate in this new chapter in life. You don’t want to put items on the list that are too expensive as this act could make loved ones who cannot afford the price tag of luxury feel bad. Consider your audience before crafting your registry and stick to items that are economically savvy.

Tip #2: Stay away from registry insert cards

You want guests to have liberality to choose if they want to abide by your registry. Including an insert card in the party’s invitation note makes them feel obligated to pick something off your guest list. Such is the reason why it is best to let news of your registry spread by word-of- mouth only.

Tip #3: Feel free to celebrate your second baby

Many do not believe it proper to hold a baby shower for baby number two. This thinking is ancient. There is nothing wrong with having a baby shower for your first and second born, especially if you know the new baby is of a different sex from the first…i.e. now time to buy boys clothes and items! The key is to make the second gathering more of a simple event. Consider having the bash at the park and placing emphasis on the miracle of birth and not on gifts. This focus will make family members and friends want to be a part of the party to celebrate your new baby!

Lessons From Take Our Daughters and Sons To Work Day

What better way to show your child the importance of your job than by taking them to work with you? Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day on April 28 is the perfect opportunity for you to teach them the value of hard work and networking.

 

Remember...

You always want to make sure that you’re putting your best foot forward. This is the opportunity to show your child what you do for a living and how you interact with people.

 

Your Kids Read You

Our children learn by watching us and not necessarily by everything we say. Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day is a great opportunity to teach your child how to converse with adults. This is a good time to go over some key tips with them before you leave the house. Remind your child to: 

  • Look at the adult who is speaking to them and not at the ground.
  • Encourage your child to use complete sentences when they speak. If a co-worker asks them their age, the response is not, “seven.” The response should be, “I’m seven years old.”
  • Teach your child the importance of addressing authority figures by utilizing your co-workers’ last names during introductions (i.e., Mr. Winbush or Ms. Alexander.)

 

Do Not...

Bash the company in front of your child. Also, don’t allow your son or daughter to be a fly on the wall. Rather explain to them what you are doing and why, when you can, so they can get a better understanding of your job.