QUESTION: I am a 19 year old guy who has a crush on an 18 year old female acquaintance who is attending collage 3 hours away. I don't have her personal contact information but I do have her home phone number, and am wondering if there is any acceptable way to call and ask her parents (who I haven't met) for her cell number or email address. Thank You
P.S. To the best of my knowledge she does not do social media.
ANSWER: This is a great question. You are very kind and thoughtful to be concerned with your approach. This will set an important precedent in getting to know her better.
When you make contact with her parents you will want to introduce yourself properly. Be sure to state both your first and last name. It is important that you also share how you know their daughter i.e. from school, or math class etc. If you can offer any additional information to make them feel a bit more comfortable then please do so. An example would be to state that you used to deliver the newspaper in the neighborhood, or you worked at a local store or perhaps even your parents attend the same church. Any small bit of information that would rule you out as being a 'weirdo' will help. Don't over do it though, just keep it simple. Most importantly when you connect with her parents you must offer your contact information to them rather than ask for hers. Be sure to thank them for their time (whether they agree to pass your information along or not).
If they don't agree to pass the information along, you might want to take the ol-fashioned route and write her a letter.Address it in the following manner:
Attention Student: First & Last Name
Name of School
Address of School
It may take a bit longer to reach her but she will surely receive it. She just might be quite flattered that you went to so much trouble to contact her. Very well. I hope this helps. Again, thank you for visiting my website. And if you have the chance, please let me know how it all turns out.