The temptation is real to always check your phone with those text messages or those Instagram posts from the weekend before. Just to always keep in mind when you constantly check your phone, it tells the people you’re with that they’re not important. One way to avoid the temptation is to place your phone at your side or behind your back while speaking to others. Give them a little face time by looking directly at them as you speak. This way they will have your full attention. Afterwards you can look at your phone and text or type away!
Since it's almost Christmas we should really begin to think about how we are going to deal with the crazy that comes with our family. No matter how dignified you are we all have at least ONE relative who can get a little out of hand. I recently stopped by CW6 in San Diego to promote the new film Almost Christmas. It's in theaters tomorrow starring Danny Glover, Gabrielle Union, Monique and many more. This movie has got the total combination of family, fun and lot of crazy. I also shared my tips on how to deal with the crazy with a bit of grace and style. Many of the tips came straight from my book Let Crazy Be Crazy. Take a look at the clip from my interview below and then go see the hilarious movie Almost Christmas with your family.
Well, the first Presidential debate has taken place and we are still seeing, hearing, and reading reports of it on the news. Some individuals may still be forming an opinion, others want nothing to do with it, and some want the world to know exactly what they are thinking. In the latter instance, many will turn to Facebook to do just that. So in this post, I will give you a few simple tips on how to handle those snarky political posts on Facebook.
FOR THE READER
1. There’s not much you can say to get a person to keep their opinion to themselves. I can list 100 reasons to avoid posting opinions on Facebook and another top ten on how it may affect other people. I can assure you, this will most likely not curtail the folks who are “over the top” and shouting from their virtual mountain top.
2. Ignore the crazy and keep scrolling. This is kind of like a virtual “get up and move to the other side” moment. You don’t want to miss out on the funny pics and hilarious updates because of someone’s unpleasant post. Just do a “SMH” and scroll on to something more enjoyable like to video of a cute rabbit chomping down on a flower.
3. Press the mute button. Ever been in a room with the television blaring while you are trying to hold a conversation? At times you’ll press the mute button because you are more interested in the conversation rather than whatever’s on TV. Well just do the same on Facebook, honey. Unless a person has posted something so despicable that you feel you can no longer be friends with them, you can simply use the mute button that Facebook offers: it’s called “unfollow.” This allows you to remain friends without seeing all of their annoying updates. After election season is over, you can resume following them again.
FOR THE POSTER
1. I share this point in my book Let Crazy Be Crazy and I’ll share it again here. If you won’t show it or say it in person, then don’t show it or say it online. You are determined to state your case? Well then go ahead, do it! Just imagine what you would say face-to-face to a group of people and write that. Don’t allow your screen to give you a false sense of bravery. You’ll most likely come off as rude and insensitive to others.
2. If you do find you have unintentionally offended someone, don’t beat yourself up over it. Just apologize and move on. A heartfelt apology can shut down a long winded rift before it even begins.
I shared a bit of my advice in a recent segment on NBC 7 San Diego. Take a look at it below:
Summer is here and many of us are looking for ways to put our best foot forward. In addition to hitting the gym several times per week, you or a friend may consider dieting. Here are a few rules for etiquette to follow.
1. You should never do or say anything to discourage the dieter. They are cutting back on calories for a reason and you, as a friend, should render full support.
2. It is never a good idea to ask about weight loss. Perhaps they fell off the wagon and are a bit ashamed of the weight that they have gained. Do you really want to add to their humiliation by inquiring about this week’s weight loss?
3. Sensitivity is key when you are preparing a meal for a friend who is trying to make more healthy choices nutritionwise.
1. Do not criticize friends who you feel need to diet too. Remember that your decision to make more wholesome choices in the nutrition department is your own.
2. Do not force others to follow your diet. Respect their wishes to eat meat even if you are fasting from protein.
3. Share your weight loss goals with family members and friends so that they can hold you accountable when your choices are not healthy.
Graduation season is upon us and it is officially time to celebrate. Watching your loved ones walk across the stage and receive their diploma is the greatest joy a parent and family can share. Going all out to celebrate family and friends who have graduated is the second best activity. Here are a few party ideas that will make their bash that much more special.
Sprinkle a little confetti tissue in the opening of the balloon and blow the rubber ball up. Make sure that the balloon is clear so that the particles can be seen by everyone at the party.
Ice Cream Bar
The perfect remedy for middle school graduates. An ice cream bar can be created by simply placing cones and ice cream cups on a two or three tiered serving stand. Surround the main attraction with toppings to bring even more attention to the attraction.
Classroom-themed Photo Booth
Bringing the classroom scene home is fairly easy. Simply find a chalkboard large enough to serve as the background for your photo booth and start taking pictures. Find an old desk to place in the scene for even more fun.
Pirouette Cookies As Dessert
Cake is always in order but pirouette cookies serve as both a dessert and party decoration. You can tie a ribbon to each sweet treat and place the decorated pieces on a platter to give the appeal of diplomas. Guests will love your creativity, and pirouette cookies are chocolate-filled and always delightful.
“Keys To Success” Board
Meant to give graduates words of wisdom, “Keys to Success” boards are becoming more popular at commencement parties. You can easily create a display by taking a large piece of cardboard and covering it with construction paper. Let push pins serve as your hooks that guests place paper keys on after writing their best advice on the attached note cards. A “Keys to Success” board is a great way to create an interactive atmosphere.
They were your partner in crime in high school, and you both vowed to be best friends forever in college. Now it seems that such promise was unwise since the two of you have grown apart and argue more often than you agree on things. A well- known quote…”Friends can come into your life for a “reason” or a “season.” You know that the time to part ways has come, but how do you break up with a friend?
It’s not a bad idea to seek counsel from loved ones who do not know the friend you are planning to divorce. They can give you unbiased advice that can help you gently break the news to your former pal, always wishing him/her well in the future and honoring in remembrance your past memories.
Let the end be the end
Politely tell your friend that your interests have grown apart, and the relationship needs to come to an end. Do not say that you need a “break” since you have no intention of reconciling in the future.
Too many times people end a toxic relationship only to return to the person a few months later. Do yourself a favor and refrain from this behavior. You decided to bring the friendship to an end for a reason. Use the energy that you have reserved for reconciling to make new acquaintances. If you should run into one another at a social event, always be polite and cordial, but be careful about being pulled back into an ongoing relationship again.
You shouldn’t have to keep gifts that you don’t want. No matter what others may say, exchanging or even giving away a present doesn’t make you any less of a grateful person. When it comes to regifting, however, there’s a certain way that you must conduct the act so as to avoid awkwardness and negative talk. Here are three secrets to the art of repurposing presents.
Secret #1: Never regift in the same social circle
You will lose a friend, and possibly gain an enemy, if she finds out that you gave her thoughtful present to someone else. Keep a log of the items that you receive during special occasions and ensure that whomever you present the unwanted product to is not connected to the giver.
Secret #2: Gift wrap with intent
Make sure that all nametags, tape, and wrapping paper is removed. Then, select a cute basket and decorative tissue paper that matches the present. Since you are not purchasing the gift, why not go all out and buy a nice basket and colorful decorating paper?
Secret #3: Make sure the repurposed gift is new
The name of the game is regifting, not hand-me-downs. It is incredibly insulting to present someone with an item that you have used and no longer desire. Remember that the essence of regifting is to pass along something that is beautiful, yet of little use in your household. This isn’t the time to find “any old thing” and give it to a loved one.